Resons dating a younger man sucks
Most non-sociopathic men aren’t out to deliberately hurt women.
We’re all interconnected at some level, and causing distress in another person causes distress in ourselves.
There he was, showing up outside your castle window every day in his mostly shiny but frankly also a little rusty armor, strumming his lute and warbling his troubadour songs. Now, I don’t know exactly what was going on in your particular situation, Sheila, since I wasn’t there.
” Then, believe that answer he gives you, especially if it’s “I’m not looking for anything serious right now.”Imagine you’re a lion on the African savanna, stalking a gazelle. Then, suddenly, the gazelle sees you from the corner of its eye, turns around, and starts galloping towards you at full speed. This is not how things are supposed to go — I’m supposed to be the one chasing! Much simpler to deal with the script he’s familiar and prepared to deal with: Lion chase. This one has happened to me a lot, and it operates at such a primal, unconscious level that even I myself marvel at the speed and vehemence with which I lose interest when she starts chasing me more than I’m chasing her.
You’re thinking, “Aw man, this is going to be great. There was the girl who invited me to her senior year final dance in college who was all over me much more than I was all over her.
There was the super sweet, cute Midwestern girl in med school whom I tried so hard to charm.
And then I didn’t know what to do with her when she made those doe eyes at me and said she was really, really, looking forward to hanging out again. I can’t feel great about these stories since the experience for these ladies was probably not hugely validating.
And hey, maybe I was just flattering myself and they weren’t that into me either.