I was dating a married man
A few years ago, while living in London, I dated married men for companionship while I processed the grief of being newly divorced. When I created a profile on Tinder and Ok Cupid, saying I was looking for no-strings-attached encounters, plenty of single men messaged me and I got together with several of them. After being married for 23 years, I wanted sex but not a relationship. I wanted to make sure they had no interest in leaving their wives or otherwise threatening all they had built together. The sex was great - I had no idea we were so sexually compatible! I never asked him to marry me because I wasn't sure what I felt for him. It's been four years since and he's still married to his wife and still in love with me. Just because I'm not the one he married, doesn't make me any less important! It made no sense to stop just because he was going to marry someone else. And I didn't want to put him through that ordeal either. Well, I'm the woman he loves, the one he wants to be with, his soulmate. The only difference being that he's married to someone else! We were part of the same team, working under the same snooty boss. He was dating someone and I was in a relationship too. Not every relationship is meant for society's understanding and approval. Sometimes, two people don't get married even though they're in love. But what started as a 'few drinks' turned into a shot too many. We've made peace with our situation and accepted our unusual circumstances. I don't expect anyone to believe that what we share is actually true love.