Dating and conversation topics
Few occasions can be as exhilarating or nerve-wrecking as a first date.
There's the question of what you'll wear (we recommend something you already feel confident in), what you'll do, and of course, what you'll actually talk about—besides your professions.
Do so by asking questions they’ve likely seldom or never answered, says Fredericks, like: What’s your fondest memory of elementary school? Of course, try to ease these in naturally or else you'll sound like you just read... “Really show your curiosity and encourage them to tell you more. “The first date is about overall compatibility,” says Fredericks.
If you could get away with a crime, what would you do? This will not only make for an engaging and fun first date, but it will also help you discover if you have common interests or life goals to help you decide if you’d like to see the person again,” says Greer. See if you’re a good match in creative ways with questions Fredericks recommends like: What food is your guilty pleasure? What’s something you haven’t done that everyone else has?
“If you’re super religious and you know that's important to you, for instance, ask about that,” says Kevin Fredricks who co-hosts podcast with his wife.
For example, if you matched online, refer to something in their dating profile and ask them a question about the topic, says Carbino.
If a mutual friend set you up, unpack how each of you knows them. If you’re not sure how to jump into a conversation, comment about something in your environment.
“Anything you know that’s a nonstarter for you should be brought up early," he adds.
Of course, you can coax into it throughout the conversation so you're not hitting them with these big life questions right away, but better to know sooner than later.