Dating after filing for divorce
Chances are, you have some very real considerations -- kids (if you're a parent), a job, and a budget (which may have been hurt by the divorce).
But chances also are that although you might not be able to do whatever your fantasy is, there may be other changes that ARE within your reach.
"Think about who you want to be -- the person you were before the marriage, or maybe a new person?
What are some of the things you can do differently?
"You might think that there must be something wrong with you if you couldn't make this relationship work," Alberti says.
"You have to work on getting confidence and faith in yourself and ability to believe in your own worth." This is also something you could pursue in therapy, or through Tip No.
It can be a way to work toward a better life, with someone who has no agenda but YOU. But the fact is that many people feel a lot of self-rejection after a divorce." Look for changes you can say yes to, instead of dwelling on what's out of reach.Being alone doesn't mean being isolated and never seeing anyone."Whatever your marriage and divorce experience has been, there will be emotions that have to do with grief," says psychotherapist Florence Falk, Ph D, MSW, author of On My Own: The Art of Being a Woman Alone."You may feel remorse for what you did or didn't do, or wonder what you did wrong.