Dating a woman with small children
Once your relationship becomes somewhat serious, try to get to know her son gradually, without attempting to rush or force the relationship or stepping in as a parental figure.
You can’t just switch back to smashing the ladies at six o’clock. Avoid pretending it’s not happening or you’ll lose it all anyhow and end up a single, heartbroken, and down a quart of testosterone growing man tits.
Much to my pleasure, she refuses to call me step-Dad. Tucking her in, getting her dressed, playing with her can’t be replaced with eleven hours a week of ignoring her in his house. The first two years were a nightmare because of this. More often than not I was the bad guy, and it was awful.
When a child has bounced around to someone different every day of the week, they don’t know who to follow or who to trust.
There’s nothing wrong with getting lost in the Moment but no one wants to feel more invested in their children's well being than the other.
From day one, I decided three things and followed through on two.