Dating a guy who just had a baby
I had to be very patient and let him feel those things.He wasn’t missing his ex in particular, just the moments they shared as a family. It was difficult at first but I had to remember that kids deserve that from a parent. Still, here’s what I wish I’d known about dating a dad before I started: The kids will always come first. If one of them got sick or he needed to be there for them in some way, our life was put on hold.He wanted to make a place for me not only his life but the lives of his children.That’s a level of respect from another person I’d never experienced before and it helped with all the little insecurities that sometimes plague me.
I knew I couldn’t push them into accepting me—it had to come at their pace. This almost seems too obvious to mention, but I found that it was sometimes hard not to be a parent when you’re around little ones.I definitely felt this with the guy I’m dating but with kids in the picture, being together 24/7 isn’t an option.Once that clicked, I actually found it sexy that he could love someone so much as he does his kids.I started to develop my own relationship with them and it was really special to me.This was a great thing, but I also had to keep in mind that if he and I broke up, I’d not only be breaking up with him but with the kids, too.